Why You Should Never Judge Parents

Before having my own kids, I had a set of expectations for one day when I was a parent:

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  1. My kids would always look great (clean faces and hands, tidy hair, matching clean clothes at all times)
  2. My kids would always be respectful and I would not tolerate bratty tantrums
  3. I would always keep track of my kids’ vaccination cards

When I had my first baby, and as with all first children, the baby memories book was all filled in, the house neatly organised and baby’s vaccination card was in order.

Then when my older sister told me that she had lost both of her children’s vaccination cards, I was absolutely aghast. How can a parent be so careless to lose such an important document regarding the health of their children? She was the mother of two and her youngest child had not been up to date with her shots for months. I mentally rolled my eyes at her when she confessed this to me.

“Don’t you put them in a safe place?I questioned her.

Later, I told my husband about my sister being so neglectful with losing her children’s vaccination cards. I was sitting way up on my high horse for sure.

Thankfully – my sister found those vaccination cards about a month later and got her kids sorted with their shots. They had to catch up on the vaccination schedule, but it got done.

Fast forward three years into the future: I am the mother of two kids, and life is a whole lot different from being a mommy of one.

And somehow I have lost my youngest child’s vaccination card. But as in – LOST – gone – NO WHERE to be found. I spring-cleaned my home numerous times, called the baby clinics to perhaps see if I had left it there, looked at my parents house, I looked everywhere.

Gone. 

*Facepalm*

For those of you who have not had the miserable task of replacing a vaccination card, you are blessed. Make sure you take your kids’ vaccination cards and photocopy them a hundred times, laminate and scan them and save them in the cloud so that if the end of the world comes, or earthquakes, hurricanes, pandemics, floods and volcanic eruptions, you will still have those precious cards.

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The thought of the lost card occupied my mind frequently, causing a wave of guilt and anxiety to creep over me. My two-and-a-half year-old had not even had his 18-month shot yet.

Eventually, I did track down all the nurses who gave my child shots and the replacement card was complete! I was so relieved. It was in total a year and a half of not having the original card.

Then, just one week later, as I was cleaning my bedside drawers out, I found something stuck right underneath on the inside of the drawer.

Yep, you guessed it – the vaccination card.

I was in disbelief – and I was quite frustrated after all that hard work I had done of replacing the card. But I still said a humble prayer of thanks right then and there that I had found the original.

Just like I reprimanded my sister for not putting her children’s cards in a safe place, I realized that my over-stuffed drawers were not actually such a “safe” place either. I needed to organize myself. 

Today, by putting in some work, I have all our important life documents organized in a mini steel file cabinet, including all my children’s vaccination cards. (I now have four kids)

Let me tell you something about judging. It’s called bad KARMA.

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Karma (car-ma) is a word meaning the result of a person’s actions … Bad karma is explained as the mirroring of bad deeds and mistreatment of others.

Yes, when you find yourself getting all judgmental – watch out – whatever it is, could happen to you.

If you find yourself mistreating or misjudging another person, it could be you next. If you judge someone because of a mistake they made, you may end up making a similar mistake one day.  I’m not saying that judging people of certain things will automatically make those things happen to you, but all I am saying is that they potentially could. And sometimes Karma does take the lead to teach us important lessons in humility.

But whether or not it happens to you, at the end of the day you will be much happier if you first stop to think and feel before you judge others.

Before you assume, learn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt, feel. Before you speak, think.

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I have since apologized to my sister about judging her with the lost vaccination cards. But I am also glad that I learned this invaluable lesson. I have become more humble, more unassuming of others and more accepting. Something that is easy for you may be difficult for others. And something that is difficult for you may be easy for others.

After having my own kids, I now know that this is reality:

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  1. My kids don’t always look great – their faces usually have remnants of the last thing they ate, their hands are sticky, their hair hasn’t been brushed in three days, and they chose their own weird combination of clothes.
  2. My kids aren’t always respectful (although we do emphasize this with our kids) and now I know there’s a reason behind the bratty tantrums and rudeness and a lesson to be taught.
  3. I try to keep track of my kids’ vaccination schedule (although I am still behind with my youngest’s shots) but life happens and not everything goes as planned.

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In a nutshell: be kind towards others. I do believe that what you send out in life will return to you.

“For with what judgement ye judge, ye shall be judged” – Matthew 7:2

BAD KARMA

Do you have an experience you would like to share about judging others and how karma played its role? Feel free to comment below!

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